Category: Personal

  • Remove Unforgiveness: (Part 7) How to Get it Done

    Remove Unforgiveness: (Part 7) How to Get it Done

    Reader, this is the last part of the series. You may not read beyond this sentence, but I hope you will. No doubt, removing unforgiveness requires taking a risk you may not be willing to take.

  • Remove Unforgiveness: The Enemy (Part 5)

    Remove Unforgiveness: The Enemy (Part 5)

    Have you ever been past anger? I mean—virulently and completely livid with someone for something they did? Now here’s the second part of this line of questioning: Have you ever found out later that you were wrong? That you had misdirected your anger? This happened to me just recently. And I really thought I was […]

  • Remove Unforgiveness: (Part 3)

    Remove Unforgiveness: (Part 3)

    Have you written your Kill List? . When I finished writing out my own list, I wrote a brief description of what each offender had done. I looked carefully at the details of the offenses. The verbs of what people had done.

  • Remove Unforgiveness: (Part 2) The Kill List

    Remove Unforgiveness: (Part 2) The Kill List

    You have a right to be angry. You have a right to protect yourself. You have the right to let anger move through you. You have a right to let it out of your body and spirit so it doesn’t take up deadly residence as unforgiveness.

  • Remove Unforgiveness (Part 1)

    Remove Unforgiveness (Part 1)

     “Remove Unforgiveness.” God spoke these words to me in February 2020.

  • And Then You’re Holding a Copy of Your First Book

    It happens to all of us. Some mornings I wake and immediately shake my head. It’s because before I begin the day, I’m already physically or emotionally exhausted, and I wonder how I’ll do it. How will I get through my to-do list when I already feel so tired and overwhelmed? 

  • (Un)naming

    Fagin. First of all, I’m not even sure it’s an accurate last name. I don’t know who my biological grandfather is. (Not going to go looking, either.) My biological grandmother, Annie Ruth, gave birth to six children.  Five of them, including my biological father, were raised by her older sister, Dorothy Lorena Davis, who I […]

  • Elegy

    Just look at her. My grandmother, Dorothy Lorena Davis, was– as Maya Angelou would say– my “rainbow in the clouds.”  I know this is what so many of our grandmothers did for us. She saw me, made me feel recognized and she waited for me to see the same things she did.

  • Is Black Motherhood Radical?

    I have three young children. Whenever I have them in public it’s always a gamble.

  • Don’t Wait (Bad title, I know.)

    I’m 34, and I’m just learning how to swim. I grew up in Charleston, and visited the ocean often, but I never learned to swim. I walked on my hands near the shoreline, even spent time holding my breath underwater, but I couldn’t survive in the 6 foot end of a pool. I kept promising […]